These are very difficult times for all people and particularly difficult for people with a mental health illness. I never knew how to explain depression when someone asks me because it varies with people and situations. For me, there are days when you’re chirpy and all smiles, then there are times when you’re engulfed by the darkness and gloom of life. There have been days when I felt like a lone warrior lacking support. Typically most of my life I’ve always just been called dramatic when I’m upset. It has become one of my biggest triggers, because most of my life I haven’t had that fight to defend it. With time you grow up to make mistakes get sad and don’t even feel like sharing because you know it’ll be more messed up so you confine it within yourself. Locking your door room and curling up in your bed brings the most comfort at that point. Your thoughts become like those hundreds of extra pictures you have on your phone that you don’t wanna post it or share it anywhere and you also don’t wanna deal with it. The scariest thing I found about suffering from a mental illness is the effect it has on every aspect of your life; it’s not just what’s inside your head. It effects your everyday working and people around you. You never know what going on in someone’s mind. It’s hard to talk to people when you don’t know what reaction you will get.

So for starters we need to stop sympathising with people and tell them stuff they didn’t ask you to say and rather be the ears they need and empathise with them. Overthinking is a curse and if you catch yourself doing that then just replace your thoughts with good ones. See it’s all about your thought process and how you perceive certain situations. Like for instance keeping expectations from people and them not living up to it can be heart breaking but is it really under their control to hurt you? This is your mind, you created the thought of hurt and sadness when they did something. I’ve read this nice quote once that your expectations from the world should be 1%, from the outer world or the ones really close to you should be 9% and the rest 90% should be from your own self. So take authority over your mind and practice this concept. These are simple ways of thinking that helped me get through all the stress. I understand that in the last few years, the term ‘anxiety’ has been used to express a lot of problems and concerns of people through social media. Everyone seems to have it or so I have seen every second teenager posting about it. But mental health as a whole exists in a huge spectrum, with different levels of symptoms and emotional misbalance. Keeping apart the staggered 2020 year and the pandemic which is going on, almost every person faces different problems at some point which leads to genuine issues. Mental illness isn’t a trend, but it shouldn’t be a taboo either.

Mental Health Awareness Week was recently held in the UK which signifies acceptance of mental health issues and has triggered a hope in people to come out about it. People now understand that some of us experience anxiety, low mood, etc. to a greater degree than others. You need to keep a check on yourself. Try identifying points when things start to go out of your hands and seek for help. Could be your dad or sister or your close friend but do let it out. Make your mental health your prime priority and I cannot emphasis more on it. Try meditating, understand what is in your control and what isn’t, what matters and what doesn’t. On a negative, you never know what tomorrow will bring – on a positive, you never know what tomorrow will bring.